When Life Crashes In (Part 2)

In my last post, I talked about what to do when your life is disrupted in a major way. My top suggestion was to find support in any way possible and that you may need to be vulnerable to do so.

I’ve felt dissatisfied since writing it though. There are so many types of disruptive changes and so many ways to move through them. There is no universal formula.

Uncomfortable, and Okay

Last week was crap. Tuesday I felt like a celebrity. It was my birthday, and so many people called, messaged, visited, texted! Especially in a pandemic, that much social interaction felt out of this world. But Monday certainly wasn’t fun, and Wednesday was a day fresh out of hell. I mean, one or two slightly…

Suffering: Shameful, or Human?

Have you ever known you were struggling, but you felt like you couldn’t tell anyone about it? You want support—and above all, you want to not be struggling—but you fear being judged. And to be honest, you’re judging yourself. At the root of it is this: “I am ashamed because I suffer.” Holy freakin’ Dinah.…

The Fear of Healing

A while ago I sat with a friend. We were talking about the process of healing. “I know I need to go there,” she said. “But I’m so scared.” Her words hit me in the center of my chest. I knew that feeling—something close to terror, a defensive holding up of your hands in front…